Invite Anxiety in 3 steps

This title ’Invite Anxiety in 3 steps’ may have confused you isn’t it? You may think while the world is searching for answers to cure it, how come we are talking inviting it! The purpose of this title is to AVOID these steps! And how our mind operates if we read such stuff often!

We all come across various posts on internet these days to deal with all bad that could ever happen to anyone!

E.g.: 3 ways to deal with depression! Or 4 signs you are having high anxiety! Looks familiar?

Now take a small break and imagine you are little disappointed, as your boss is not happy with your work and you read a post or Google stating, ‘signs you are having high anxiety!’ will you read this? There are 80 – 90 % chances you will read such posts and try to link your current mood (that is little disappointment) with all symptoms mentioned. And you actually start feeling those!

Now, you were just little disappointed and you allow all symptoms of anxiety by reading such posts and you become a person with high anxiety! This is happening with many people these days due to overuse and over reliance on internet, especially social media! Even a little ‘bad day’ is termed as ‘depression’! A little disturbance is termed as ‘anxiety’. Now take a step back and think, are we a perfect person? Is it okay to have a bad day! Is this permanent? When a person is actually having anxiety or high depression, will he or she able to read and post on social platforms? Or express the reason behind such big words! Obviously not. Nothing is perfect and Nothing is permanent!

So here are 3 steps how typically one invites anxiety and how to avoid this

We call everything ‘Anxiety’

In my previous article ’power of words’, we understood power of negative words and its effects on our mind. So whenever anything little happens, we have a tendency to call everything as anxiety!

How to avoid:

Stop calling everything as ‘Anxiety’. Be aware of what is going in your mind and is it really anxiety or a temporary phase!

We read all symptoms and believe it’s true for us

Whenever we read symptoms, we unconsciously believe that whatever is written as symptoms is or may be true in our case.

How to avoid:

Ideally I would recommend not reading or searching such posts especially when you are already in unpleasant mood. Reading this may cause over think on all symptoms and believe it’s true for us!

We over-discuss our anxiety with self and everyone around

Once we read and link all symptoms, we over-discuss all these symptoms with ourselves and people around us.

How to avoid:

If you read, avoid discussions on the same. The more you say, more you invite the same.

When you are unsure about your state of mind before or after reading, seek professional help to address this confusion. Many of my clients have overcome this through guided self awareness!

In a nutshell, do not call everything as anxiety! And there is no need to Google everything! Always! There are people who have learnt this art, there are people who are worst than us, there are people who know what is going on in their mind and how to fix it. Just give it a try and see how such little steps will safeguard you from becoming unnecessary anxious person!