If someone asks you “who are you” and you are supposed to answer this without taking your name! How will you answer? You will think of a title of your achievement or a wish that has come true. Sometimes, we also think of the wish that has not come true and you need it badly! The real answer to the question ‘who are you’ lies in your wish.
A wish that has come true, a wish that you would like to have. All these wishes, expectations, ambition defines you as a person isn’t it. All of us run behind these wishes. But have we ever thought that what lies deep within these wishes? There lies knowledge!
When our wish doesn’t come true, we get disappointed and that’s where knowledge enters heart. Knowledge of purpose behind this situation. Knowledge of ‘what we do when we are disappointed’. Knowledge of what choices we make when we are disappointed. Choices of decisions, choices of people and most importantly choices of thoughts!
When we are disappointed, our thoughts play a major role. As these thoughts influences decisions.
If we take this as a learning, we evolve as a person and apply those learnings. If we take this as a failure, we get stuck there and keep thinking of failure and possible people to blame for!
These thoughts influences, the choice of people too! What kind of environment we go for! When you allow positive people, you become positive. If you allow toxic people,you become toxic and your quality of thoughts is affected. You keep thinking on “Who disappointed me” and think of all external forces that has put you in this situation. When your thoughts become toxic, you again make choices based on toxicity.
This is a vicious cycle ! We keep on thinking ‘who disappointed me’ and ‘why this happened’. This only keeps us in problem mode. We need a shift into solution mode.
Hence whenever there is a disappointment, we need to keep in mind that handling disappointment is in our hands hence it won’t last long if we work on it. The first step is accepting the responsibility of this disappointment and answer these questions
- What is really making me disappointed
- What is the knowledge involved
- What I can learn from this
- How would I know I have moved on?
Answer to this last question will help you move on! I call it “Progressive thinking”. Many of life’s challenges are resolved by this progressive thinking. This is my most frequently used tool that has helped my clients in areas of identity , life goals and relationships!
Once you get answers to these questions, you become more aware and it will help you move on and unstuck yourself.
Remember, clarity is power. Get clarity of disappointment and you will NOT be disappointed for a long!
– Supriya Pujari